“If you want to be a writer, you must do two things above all: Read a lot and write a lot.”Stephen King
After I lost my job eight years ago, my confidence took a severe knock that triggered a massive anxiety episode. One way to combat my negative thoughts was to diarise them, hence My Midlife Mayhem was born.
It didn’t take long for me to discover the massive gap in our blogging market for humorous, thought-provoking content targeted at women over-50 seeking new meaning to their lives, validation, and visibility.
And since then, I’ve discovered a passion for the literary equivalent of verbal diarrhoea and extended my writing into a full-blown writing career that includes opinion pieces for women’s and lifestyle magazines and blog posts for company websites. As an interior decorator and property stylist, I have created The Styling Consultant – an interiors blog, full to the brim of wonderful style tips and ideas for people looking to sell or renovate their property.
What is My Midlife Mayhem about?
Many of us have come to terms with the fact that middle-age is a scary new period of life where women are confronted by a number of things such as physical changes caused by menopause, and a changed societal perception of who we are. Unless you are as thick-skinned as a rhino, women aren’t allowed to age gracefully. And to add salt to the wound, our brain starts to slow down which may lead to anxiety and a dip in confidence. One of the missions of this blog is to help women embrace this period of their lives; to highlight what you CAN DO rather than what you can’t.
This is a key topic of this blog. ANXIETY has been a life-long friend of mine for which I’ve tried numerous treatments – therapy, exercise, mindfulness, and medication – and I now rely on a combination of all of them. The first time I put a name to the feeling of terror and the anger caused by anxiety was after the birth of my first child, when what should have been a milestone, became a completely overwhelming experience. More recently, my anxiety has been triggered by menopause, and the struggles caused by the mental health of my son.
I am the mother of two adult children, and like the majority of us, I’ve learnt about parenting on the job. As the mother of a child with mental health issues, I’ve also done a whole lot of special needs parenting. During our journey with our son, it has been cathartic to use this blog as a journal and a guide where I can dump tips and the advice I’ve picked up along the way about how to navigate parenting with these special kids with ADHD, OCD, DEPRESSION, and ANXIETY.
Whether your married, partnered, or single, I’ll give you my spin on relationships – usually at the expense of my muse, my husband. As a proud feminist, I’m also not short on opinions about the differences between men and women.
I’m a proud believer in the “all things in moderation in life” school of thinking. I drink too much and love my food, but I try to balance it with exercise and positivity. I’ll be honest with you about my failed diets, my hatred of running, and the change in my outlook that my new appreciation of nature has brought about.
It’s safe to say that I have an opinion on most things – my husband will vouch for that – and as a passionate feminist, social justice advocate, and proud Leftie, I also like to stir the pot on the topic of politics – particularly gender politics.
But in a nutshell, My Midlife Mayhem is a high-five to middle-aged women stuck in this confronting arena of life after fifty, where some of us notice a distinct loss of currency and visibility. In this blog, I try to dissect the difficulties of having it all AND maintaining your sanity; living with adult kids and empty-nesting; coping with the body changes and health issues that come with menopause; holding relationships together, and learning how to give fewer fucks.